Jul 12, 2007  •  In Geek, Information, Personal

Diamonds, Part III: Some Tips!

Diamonds 101
Diamonds…continued

When purchasing a diamond, the worst thing you can do is walk into a jewelry store and pick something they have on display.

First, you need to do your research.

Then, find a good vendor. A good jeweler will be honest with you and try their very best to find the best diamond for YOU. They will not try to push more expensive diamonds nor will they pressure you to buy. In fact, a good jeweler will call in diamonds for you if they do not have something you’re looking for in their stock.

Another important thing is their trade-up policy. Try to go with a vendor with a lifetime trade-up policy. While I’m very sentimental and I could never trade up my e-ring, some women are more than happy to do so. Some people may not have the money for a nice e-ring when they get engaged so they may upgrade for an anniversary later on.

Whatever the reason, the point is that good vendors will allow you to trade in your diamond for 100% of the initial purchase price. If you think about it, they will not do this unless they believe in their product – if they sell a sh*tty diamond now, and the person comes back years later to trade it in, it’s the jeweler’s loss.

When viewing diamonds, look at them under various types of lighting. The lights in jewelry stores are deceptive! What may look great in the store may be a dud in normal lighting.

Once you find a diamond, make sure it is certified by a lab such as GIA or AGS (EGL tends to go soft with their grading so they’re not always recommended). If it is not certified, take it to a reputable appraiser to make sure you’re getting your money’s worth.

Lastly, don’t be afraid to look online! Online vendors usually have a lot lower prices because they don’t have to deal with the overhead costs as regular jewelry stores. There are some very reputable online vendors out there with impeccable reviews, fair prices, and great customer service. (Another plus is that if the online vendor operates from a different state, you may not need to pay sales tax.)

Whiteflash is based in Houston and they specialize in ACA, or A Cut Above diamonds, which are cut especially for them to their specifications. They also recently started carrying X-Factors, which is supposed to be a great (and some say better) alternative to princess cuts.

Good Old Gold is based in Long Island and they’re known to find some of the best diamonds out there while providing tons of documentation on each diamond they sell. They also carry a great selection of Square Hearts & Arrows, which has the performance of a round in a square shape.

Another great option is James Allen, which is based in Frederick, MD. James Allen’s website carries actual pictures of their diamonds with zoom options, so you can see exactly what you’re getting.

J purchased my diamond from Engagement Rings Direct (ERD), which is an online vendor whose office is located at the diamond district here in NY. We are very lucky to be in NY, because more than 75% of the diamonds sold in the US go through the NYC diamond district at one point or another. In other words, ERD has a great pool of resources.

ERD’s office is actually in the same building as the GIA’s NYC branch. They can just look at the GIA database of diamonds and run downstairs if they see something they like. In my online research, I could not find one bad review about them – people raved about their eye for well-cut diamonds, very fair prices, and honesty.

If you have any questions about diamonds at all, feel free to ask! I’d love to help anyone out!

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Jul 11, 2007  •  In Geek, Information, Personal

Diamonds…Continued

Please read my previous post, Diamonds 101, if you haven’t already done so.

Let’s talk about diamond shapes.

The round brilliant is the most popular shape for good reason: it faces up large, and no other shape can perform as well in terms of brilliance, fire, and scintillation. Rounds are also easiest to predict in terms of performance when you only have its specs, so it is a safe bet if you’re thinking about purchasing your diamond online.

Other shapes are categorized as “fancy cuts”:


(image taken from Excel Diamonds)

The second most popular shape these days is the princess cut. Due to the popularity of princess cuts, their performance is also becoming easier to predict based on just specs and numbers. The princess is probably the most brilliant fancy shape; however, the downside is that they look very small for their carat weight (a 1ct round will look much larger than a 1ct princess).

If you want something that will look the largest for their carat weight, go for the pear or marquise. A 1ct pear or marquise can look as large as a 1.2ct round.

Asschers and emeralds are step cuts (as opposed to brilliant cuts), meaning they are not cut for brilliance (they don’t sparkle as much). However, that isn’t to say that they do not sparkle at all; rather, they tend to give off large, broad flashes of light. Beautifully-cut asschers and emeralds can be breath-taking: when you stare down on a well-cut asscher, it can look as if you’re looking down into a pool of clear water. Asscher cuts are really gaining in popularity these days; however, there are two cons to them: (1)they face up very very small for their weight (perhaps the most so out of all diamond shapes), and (2)they show color a lot easier than brilliant cuts so you ultimately have to pay more to get something that looks the same size/color as say, a round.

The cushion cut is also starting to become popular. As you can see from the picture above, it is shaped like a cushion. There are sooooo many different types of cushions out there: old miner’s, cushion modified brilliant, cushion brilliant, etc. Even within those, they can be cut differently with different faceting patterns. However like princesses and asschers, cushion cuts face up very small for their
weight.

With all fancy shapes (with maybe the exception of princesses), you need to see the actual diamond in person and compare them side-by-side. Due to the many variations within each shape, it can be difficult to predict their performance based on just specs and numbers. A fancy shape may look horrible on paper but can look great in real life, and vice versa.

Next up: some tips for when purchasing a diamond!

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Jul 9, 2007  •  In Geek, Information, Personal

Diamonds 101

I’ve never been a jewelry person, but I can’t stop staring at my engagement ring! How does this little thing sparkle so much? Why are diamonds so expensive? What makes one diamond better than another?

So, per my typical fashion, I decided to do some research and share it with you…

I won’t get too in-depth with numbers, angles, etc but I will give a basic (albeit long) tutorial. This post will be the first of a three-part series.

When most people think of diamonds they think of the 4 C’s: carat, color, clarity, and cut (some men I’ve spoken to say there’s a fifth C – “cost” – but that’s another story). What most people don’t realize is that “cut” is the most important thing to consider when choosing a diamond.

Many confuse “cut” with the shape of a diamond (round, princess, oval, etc) – they are not the same thing. “Cut” refers to the way a diamond is cut from the rough (or from a larger diamond), affecting the proportions, the angles, and the overall sparkle. A well-cut diamond will look larger, hide imperfections, look whiter, and as a whole, be more brilliant. Unfortunately, the majority of diamonds on the market are NOT well-cut.

When I first started researching diamonds, I was surprised to find that one diamond can look a lot larger than another of the same weight. If they’re the same weight, shouldn’t they look the same size? Not so…take a look at the picture below (all images are from the Whiteflash website):

Let’s assume that all three diamonds are the same weight.

The diamond on the right will face up smaller (look smaller when viewed from the top) because there is too much weight on the bottom. Not only do you end up paying for size you can’t see, but the diamond will have less light return as well.

On the other hand, the diamond on the left will face up the largest of the three, but it will be lifeless because as you can see from the picture, light will leak from its sides.

There is, of course, a lot more at play here….angles, dispersion of light, etc but I won’t bore you. If you want to learn more, go to www.pricescope.com – they have a huge tutorial along with a friendly, informative forum that will answer all the questions you will ever have regarding diamonds.

Now, on to the other C’s…let’s start with “color.” A larger percentage of the population is familiar with color, and basically, diamond colors run from D (colorless) to Z (yellow/light brown). There are, of course, fancy colors like pink, blue, etc but I won’t get into that here.

Looking at this picture and the chart, it’s obvious that most people would want a colorless diamond in the D-F range. You wanna know a secret? 95% of the population have trouble seeing color in a well-cut “H” diamond. If a diamond is especially well-cut, you can even go down to “I” or even “J” and no layman would know.

Now, in my case, J was very unlucky because I’m super-color-sensitive. A while back at a Tiffany & Co, I was able to see color in an “F” diamond when no one else in the vicinity was able to. So a high color would be priority for a little freak like me. However, for most people, you can sacrifice a lot on color and save a lot of money in the process….just as long as you get a well-cut diamond!

Just for comparison, a 1.00ct, D, VS1 diamond costs between $7,000-$8,000. Compare that to a 1.00ct, H, VS1 with a range of $4,500-$5,500!

Now on to clarity. Clarity runs from the “FL” (flawless) or “IF” (internally flawless) range to the “I” (included) range:

Based on pictures like these, most people stay clear of anything below a “VVS2.” However, you have to realize that when plotting inclusions, gemologists scrutinize these diamonds under 10x, sometimes even 20x magnification.

If you are lucky, you can find a beautiful “SI1” that is completely eye-clean (which means that you cannot see the inclusions with the naked eye). I even read about one girl who wanted a 2ct diamond on a $10,000 budget. While most jewelers laughed at her, she was patient and found a jeweler who was able to find her a 2ct diamond that was an “I1.” Although she was able to see the largest inclusion, it was positioned on a corner so the prong in her ring completely covered it.

Unless you’re really adamant about a flawless diamond (I know many Asian cultures are picky about clarity and scoff at anything below a “VVS1”), anything in the “VVS” range is overkill, IMHO. Why pay for something you can’t see? For comparison, a 1.00ct G FL diamond can cost $7,500-$9,000. Go down in clarity with a 1.00ct G SI1 and the price jumps down to $4,000 to $5,000.

To reiterate: if you are on a budget, find a well-cut diamond and you can sacrifice a lot on color and clarity. Use the extra money and invest it in your retirement fund. Put it towards your wedding or your honeymoon. Or just buy a larger diamond with it!

Next up: shapes!

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Jun 29, 2007  •  In Personal, Relationships

Holy Crap…

I’m engaged!!!

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Jun 22, 2007  •  In Funny

The Best 5-Second Video on the Interweb

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Jun 16, 2007  •  In Personal

Meeting Allan Houston!

I met Allan Houston last night!

In case you don’t know, Allan Houston is one of my biggest celeb crushes. I was crestfallen when he retired, but was always ecstatic to see him do correspondence work on ESPN. I always told people that I’m convinced if he ever met me in person, he’d leave his wife and marry me.

We were drinking beer and shooting pool at Slate last night when a friend returned from the men’s room saying, “I think I saw Allan Houston in the bathroom.” At first I thought he was teasing me and I told him that’s not funny. Then he pointed at Mr. Houston…

He was with a small group playing ping-pong. He looked even better in person than he does on TV. And naturally, very, very tall.

In my pleasantly buzzed state, I insisted that I need to go over and talk to him (I’m not sure I would’ve had the balls to do so if I weren’t under the influence of alcohol). When his bodyguard wasn’t looking, I snuck over and introduced myself. I shyly asked for an autograph and he happily did so. But when I asked for a picture, his bodyguard (who appeared out of nowhere) barked, “No pictures!” and shooed me away.

However, I feel very lucky because afterwards, a few more people tried to talk to him but was always blocked out by the bodyguard.

Here’s the autograph….the only piece of paper I had was a receipt!

Sadly, I don’t think Allan wanted to marry me. 🙁

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Jun 15, 2007  •  In Personal, Relationships

The Worst Break-Up

I was reading an article about how break-ups via emails, IM’s, and text messages are on the rise. This made me think back to my worst break-up…

The year was 2001. I had just decided to take some time off from school. I had just gotten out of a draining relationship with my first boyfriend (and first love). There were so many changes in my life that I was in a very volatile, emotional, insecure state.

Then R walked into my life. He was suave, good-looking, and charming. I couldn’t believe that a guy like him liked a shy, plain girl like me. My friends got along with him, my sister liked him, and my parents approved of him. I met his family and they liked me as well. His mother even commented that they need to buy dinner for our friends for introducing us. Needless to say, I soon fell head over heels in love with R.

For my 21st birthday, he took me to a swanky Italian restaurant in the theater district with a prixe-fix menu (I had never been to anywhere like that before and I was impressed). We then headed to a lounge where he immediately ordered a bottle of ’96 Dom Perignon. After toasting my birthday, he told me he had three presents for me. The first was a Precious Moments figurine of a couple in love. The second was a picture of us that he had framed. The third was a diamond necklace. A solitaire with a HUGE diamond. It was his grandmother’s, he said. She had told him to give it to the girl he could see marrying, whenever that might be. Obviously I was shocked and although extremely grateful, I told him that I couldn’t possibly accept the necklace. However, he insisted and I kept it. I never took it off.

Fast-forward a few months, when I made the decision to return to school. Since school was back in Maryland, we became long-distance. After a couple of months, I felt him pulling away. But I held on. We were in love and after a couple of more years of school, we could be together again….or so I thought.

A few weeks before our one-year anniversary, I received an email from a girl who introduced herself as R’s ex-girlfriend. She said she had found my blog, and after apologizing for intruding, she explained how badly R had treated her, including all the lies he had told her. In fact, they were dating when R and I first met. She even told me the specific date when he broke up with her – this was the day after R and my first date. She continued on to say that I seemed like a nice girl and she felt the need to tell me the truth.

Don’t trust him, she warned. He is a liar and a cheat.

I dismissed the warning as the rantings of a psycho ex bent on revenge. I emailed her back and told her that our relationship was great – thanks for the concern but we were fine. I was wrong.

A week or so after I received the email, one of R’s friends IMed me. He confessed that he suspected R was cheating on me. He felt he needed to tell me because we had become pretty good friends ourselves…he didn’t think R would confess to me anytime soon and he felt that it was only right that I know what’s going on.

I immediately called R, but he didn’t answer since he was at work. A few (anxious and long) hours later, I saw him online. I asked him to call me but he said he preferred to talk online since he was still at the office. I confronted him about what happened. He didn’t deny anything.

“Are we breaking up?” I asked him.

“I guess so,” he answered.

I begged him to reconsider. I told him that we can work things out.

He then said he needed to finish his work for the day. He said we’ll continue this conversation later that night when he’s home. He said he’ll call me as soon as he got home.

He never called.


So yes, I’ve been dumped via IM…just a week shy of our 1-year anniversary.

I’m not sure why, but I checked out all the stories his ex-girlfriend had relayed… they were all true. He had lied to me about several big things also.

Weeks later, after much tears and heartbreak, I visited a jewelry store out of curiosity. After examining the necklace in a huge machine, they politely informed me that the stone was fake.

What do you consider your worst break-up? Would you ever break up with someone via email, IM, or text message?

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May 31, 2007  •  In Art/Design, Beauty, Photography

The Anatomy of a Photogenic Face

I admit that I’m very un-photogenic. Even my own mother tells me so. “Why do you look so bad in pictures? Practice how to pose in front of the mirror!” Perhaps it’s my natural awkwardness and/or low self-esteem manifesting itself on film. Or maybe I just don’t have the face for it.

Being an artiste, I’ve studied human anatomy and the human form many times (heck I had to stare at naked bodies for 8 hours straight every Saturday for an entire summer). Working in marketing, I sometimes have to pour through hundreds of photos, examining face after face. And I’ve noticed that there are certain features that definitely makes one easier to draw, or more pleasing to the eye when photographed:

  1. Large eyes with dark, thick lashes
  2. Small chin on women, large chin on men
  3. Full, thick lips
  4. Fairly symmetrical features

This isn’t too surprising. After all, these are the same features that scientists have declared to be what we, as humans, find the most attractive in the opposite sex.

I’m sorry to say that I don’t have any of those features. I have small eyes with non-existent eyelashes, thin lips, and a strong, prominent (masculine) jawline. However, I believe that these features “work” for me. I don’t have classically beautiful features, but I have been described as being “exotic” several times. There have even been instances where strangers have stopped me on the street to tell me that I’m beautiful (and not in a shady, I’m-hitting-on-you way).

Nonetheless, the fact remains that I still don’t photograph well due to these features.

I know a girl (I won’t mention her name lest she gets embarrassed) who is drop-dead gorgeous in real life, and many people agree with me. However, the very features that give her the unforgettable, exotic look (upturned almond-shaped eyes, slightly asymmetrical face) make her look horrible in pictures.

I also know of some people who look fabulous on film (thinner, younger, and generally more attractive) but they don’t look that great in real life. I often find myself comparing their pictures with their real-life-selves and wondering how they could look so good in pictures, even better than they are in real life. And I see that they have the same exact features I’ve outlined above.

There are also those who look exactly the same on film and in person.

Which category do you think you fall under? Are you happy with the way you look on film? Do you think you’re unphotogenic?

Also, if you want to know my opinion of whether I think you’re photogenic, leave me a comment and I’ll let you know.

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May 22, 2007  •  In Food, Korean, NYC, Reviews

Pho32 & Shabu

Last Friday a friend and I had planned to have lunch at BonChon Chicken. However, upon arrival, we were disappointed to see that they weren’t yet open for the day. Walking around K-Town for an alternate restaurant, I noticed Pho32 & Shabu:

It’s a tiny place on 32nd St, and we wondered why we hadn’t noticed it before (did it open just recently?). The decor was cute, and each table had two round heated openings for the shabu-shabu pots. I was in the mood for some pho but we ended up going for the “Land and Sea” (combination of beef and seafood) shabu-shabu instead.

Yummy….my mouth’s watering just looking back at this picture. Needless to say, the food was great. The majority of people were eating pho so I assume their pho isn’t too bad either. We were very lucky to have arrive just as the lunch rush hour was starting – we only waited 5 minutes. However, those who arrived after us waited up to 30 minutes.

The bill came out to a little over $30 for the “Land and Sea” shabu-shabu and extra sides, which was perfect for two people. I highly recommend this restaurant. And since they’re open 24 hours, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to visit after a night out on the town.

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May 18, 2007  •  In Finance, Personal, Relationships

Kept Women

This month’s Elle magazine has an interesting article titled “The Smart Girl’s Taboo: Wanting to be a Kept Woman.” In it, the writer contemplates the success of the E! television show The Girls Next Door and even spends some time with Hef’s three main ladies. She then asks why so many women are attracted to the show – can it be that deep down inside, even successful, independent women dream of being a kept woman?

I know many single or unmarried women who are well-educated, have successful careers, and live very comfortable lives. However, more than a few have told me directly:

“I only went into this field to meet successful (rich) men.”

or,

“I’m proud of what I’ve done and I’m happy with my life. But I want to meet someone who can support me and my lifestyle. After we’re married, I’ll quit and he can bring home the dough.”

Having attended Johns Hopkins, I’ve even met a few girls who admitted they only worked hard in high school to get into a good college so that they can meet a successful man (or a future doctor, in this case).

When I was younger, I thought love conquers all. “All you need is love” – John Lennon was a smart man. Just as long as you love each other, it doesn’t matter if you’re short on cash. The love you have for each other will more than make up for it.

Now, I admit that although love can be powerful, love can also be a lot easier if you have money. Would I love my future husband any less if he didn’t make as much? No. But I know we’d be struggling a lot more.

I’m not sure if I want to be a “kept woman,” per se. But I do know that after I’m married and have kids, I want to stay home for at least the first few years of their lives. And I want to know that my husband can financially support the entire family during this period.

I’d be lying if I said I never daydream about the lives of Holly, Bridget, and Kendra (okay, I watch the show sometimes). Granted, they will never have Hef’s 100% devotion. But aside from that, their wish is their command. They live the lives of princesses.

Are you or do you know anyone who dreams of being a kept woman?

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