Aug 7, 2011  •  In Books, Geek, Information

Author Venn Diagram

I can’t say that I have read all of these authors so I do not feel that I have the right to properly place judgement on the diagram. However, I do agree with the creator of the diagram that good writing should come from all three places: the head (pros: cerebral, conceptual; cons: didactic, dry), the mouth(pros: language, poetics; cons: empty banter, pure form), and the heart (pros: empathic, intimate; cons: sentimental, emotional).

Via HTMLGIANT.

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Aug 6, 2011  •  In Beauty, Claire, Cute, Personal, Relationships

My Day in Three Pictures

I wish this post could consist of more than three crappy cell phone pictures, but I have yet to get a new laptop and trying to process pictures from an actual camera is too much work. 😛

Today started with my sitting on a salon chair, getting a haircut (it is now just below my shoulders) and a dye job:

Remember when I had contemplated getting an ombre dye job after my preggo chop? Well, I’ve done it. And I love it! One of the main reasons I had stopped dyeing my hair is because of the roots that grow out — and an ombre color takes care of just that.

Another big plus is that with the ombre technique, the hair dye never touches the scalp (pregnant women can dye their hair just as long as it is done in a well-ventilated area and the stylist is careful to minimize dye exposure to the scalp).

In the past, whenever I’ve dyed my hair, it usually came out a brassy, reddish color of which I am not too fond. So when I explained this to my stylist, she mixed up a dye that left the lower half of my locks a beautiful chocolate-y, cool brown. (I recommend Ashley at Salon CARU any day. I LOVE her.)

I promise I’ll post pictures of my new hair soon!

When I came home, J showed me this hilarious picture he took of our Claire Bear:

See that half of a banana in her right hand? She is making her ham face because she absolutely loves bananas. When we give her half a banana like pictured above, she will snap it in half and squish each piece into her mouth (yes, that’s an entire quarter of a banana :shock:).

Fruits definitely are Claire’s favorite food group, and she must take after her mama in this department. 🙂  We have been giving Claire various fruits ever since she started solids at 5 months of age, and she gobbles them all down with big, goofy, — and often messy — grins.

Now, for the last picture…

Yesterday, when I was frustrated that I could not go see my father, I picked up a “Get Well Soon” card and some finger paints from the local Dollar Store. And here is the result:


(Please excuse my shaky Korean writing, as I stupidly wrote this on a couch cushion.)

I was trying to get a print of Claire’s hand, but as you can see she moved a couple of her fingers around last second. Once the paint was dry, I wrote in Korean: “Get better soon Grandpa!” and signed Claire’s Korean name beneath.

I wish Claire was old enough for more elaborate craft projects, and that I wasn’t in such a frazzled state of mind when I thought of this cheesy project, but I know that my father will appreciate it all the same when we finally go visit him tomorrow.

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Aug 6, 2011  •  In Funny

The Three Stages of Life

I think that if I had to choose, I would go with #3. How about you?

Via haha.nu.

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Aug 5, 2011  •  In Funny, Geek, Web

Internet Filtration System of the Year

I don’t consider myself a grammar nazi, but it really, really bugs me when people can’t seem to distinguish between your vs. you’re, then vs. than, they’re vs. their vs. there, and so forth.

Somehow, these errors almost seem contagious on the internet, don’t they? 😉

Matthew Baldwin has come up with a clever solution for this problem. His proposal, Internet Access CAPTCHAS, is designed to keep certain grammatically-challenged people off the web:

Site administrators use CAPTCHAs to prevent automated scripts from performing certain functions, such as creating an account, sending email to a distribution list, or participating in a discussion thread. 

That’s fine, as far as it goes. But, frankly, I’d also like to see certain people on the Internet prevented from doing certain things. You know, like: logging onto the Internet. 

And so, a modest proposal: Internet Access Captchas, built right into browsers, designed to greatly reduce the overabundance of youtube commenters, Facebookers, and Twittererers.

And just in case you’re too lazy to click on over to see this awesomeness in action, here are a few screenshots. First, the CAPTCHA system:

What happens when you pass:

What happens when you fail:

 

Ingenious, I tell ya.

Via The Daily What.

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Aug 5, 2011  •  In Personal, Pregnancy, Relationships

Wishing for Boredom

Thank you all very much for your kind comments regarding my father. I received word that he was discharged from the hospital about an hour ago, and is well on his way to recovery.

I wanted so badly to be see him again today, but I could not as I had Claire to take care of and the hospital, like most, does not allow babies to visit. But I’m sure that my own anguish was nothing compared to my mother’s, who had her own store to watch and could not be by his side even when she first received word of the incident yesterday. Luckily, my sister was able to cancel her plans to stay with my father yesterday and today.

I think that in light of the past couple of weeks, I have the right to be completely sick of drama of all sorts. To be sick of hospitals, of pain, and of worry. I am praying that the rest of the summer will remain incident-free, and even hope for some boredom.

Despite all this, I remain thankful. I know that my appendicitis, my father’s injuries, and even seemingly insignificant events, could have been much worse. I am glad that we are both recovering well and that our family has grown closer together as a result.

And just to keep a record of my own physical recovery, here is a picture of my stomach that J took for me just now. The three incision scars really don’t look that bad, just two weeks after surgery. Oh, and I guess this could be my 27 weeks pregnant belly shot. 🙂


(I’ve decided to make the picture only viewable via a click since I know that some
people feel squeamish about scars, and/or they prefer not to see a bare pregnant belly.
And please excuse my hairy stomach — it’s another lovely by-product of pregnancy.)

 I hope that everyone has a great weekend!

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Aug 4, 2011  •  In Personal

How My Father Ended Up in the Hospital

Thank you to those who commented on today’s earlier, emotional post. My father is doing much better now — he was able to regain consciousness and was coherent by the time I was finally able to see him. The CAT scan did not reveal any serious damage, but they want to keep him at the hospital overnight for observation.

I realize that the earlier entry was curt and may have been a bit confusing to some. So here’s the full story…

My father runs a coin-operated laundromat in the South Bronx. Ask any seasoned New Yorker where the most dangerous areas in the Five Boroughs are, and the South Bronx will most certainly be on the list.

Earlier today, a woman entered the store and started to make a big fuss about her daughter’s clothes not being in the appropriate dryer. My father told her that the customer is responsible for watching over his/her own property, as is clearly stated in various signs around the establishment. But the woman would not relent, and she continued to scream and make a ruckus for an hour and a half, disturbing the other customers in the process.

Finally, my father asked her if she would like to take a look at the security footage in the back room, and she agreed. He showed her how no one had been using the dryer in question, and how her daughter was not even at the laundromat at the time when she supposedly dropped off her clothes.

The woman hurried away in a huff. But before doing so, she grabbed a container which housed money that were collected from the change machine.

My father quickly went off after her despite the protests from the other worker. He — now, even I will admit that this was dumb on his part — followed her back to her apartment building, and when she noticed him in the lobby whilst waiting for the elevator, she became physically violent. She pushed, shoved, and even kicked him in the chest.

My father shoved her back and told her that he had her on camera, stealing the money, and that he now knew where she lives.

Then he headed back to the store. Within minutes, the woman returned, this time with her brother in tow.

Now, the woman was pretty big — at least 5’10” and about 200 lbs by my father’s estimates (I saw a picture of her and this seems to be a fair approximation). Her brother was a lot larger. But my father? He stands 5’6″ and is thin as a rail due to his illness.

He had no chance against them, and they knew it. Together, they began to beat up on my father.

He did his best to dodge and block them, and even tried to run away a few times. But they were unrelenting. Even as he fell to the ground, they continued to beat him.

The other customers at the store started to scream and yell at them to stop. One person was level-headed enough to call the police and an ambulance. My father tells me that when the sound of the ambulance became audible, the sister and brother ran away from the scene.

And that’s how I found my father, lying on a blood-stained pillow, with a fat lip and other bruises starting to form, with traces of blood all over his face and arms where the hospital staff had failed to clean him properly.

I did my best not to cry as I approached him and held his hand. He asked me why I bothered to make the long trip from New Jersey when I am still in pain myself, and who was watching Claire? (I had called J as soon as I heard what had happened, and he hurried home from work so that I could go be by my father’s side.)

“Because I’m your daughter. Because I know you would do more for me,” I told him.

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Aug 4, 2011  •  In Personal

At the ER Again

My father was hit over the head with a chair. He has a bad cut and is drifting in and out of consciousness. I am currently at the ER waiting for news. Please keep him, and our family, in your prayers tonight…

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Aug 3, 2011  •  In Baby, Claire, Cute, Funny, Personal

Restful Slumber…Or Not

I wish that baby monitors came with a screenshot function. (Any baby equipment companies reading this?) Then we wouldn’t have to deal with crappy cell phone photos like these:

Five minutes later…

And in case you’re wondering, YES she is deep asleep in both pictures. 🙂 I don’t know where she gets her sometimes-violent sleep maneuvers from, because both J and I tend to remain pretty still as we snooze.

Posting will be light today as I am utterly exhausted from only managing 8 hours of sleep in the past 72 hours. Ever feel like the entire world is going by S-L-O-W-L-Y, when all sounds seem muffled and you feel overcome with nausea from lack of sleep? Yeah. That’s how I feel today.


Update:

Nellie has kindly informed me that baby video monitors that take screenshots do exist — I knew that I should have done a quick google search before writing this post…doh!

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Aug 2, 2011  •  In Geek, Information, Science

The Knight’s Tour [Animated GIF]

Today I learned that on a chessboard, a knight can visit each square exactly once. Here’s how:

The animation is actually one way of solving the Knight’s Tour, which is a mathematical problem that is commonly given in computer science courses. (However, I don’t recall ever giving this problem in my Intro to Java class.)

At first glance, viewers may object that the animation is not valid considering that the knight’s square of origin is incorrect. However, according to Wikipedia, there are 26,534,728,821,064 different ways (including reversals, reflections and rotations) to do this so that the knight travels in a loop (ie, starting where it began), in which case you could start from any square and then just continue the loop from there.

Via Reddit.

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Aug 2, 2011  •  In Aerin, Claire, Personal, Scary, Weird

Worst Case Scenarios

Lately I have been plagued with awfully vivid nightmares — ones that jolt me from sleep and keep me up the rest of the night. Take the one from a couple of nights ago, for example:

J is killed in a horrific accident.

At his funeral, his parents and I get into an argument regarding the future of Claire and BebeDeux — they want to raise them in Hong Kong while I want to raise them here in the U.S. As their birth mother, I have legal custodial rights over them and vehemently refuse to raise my children in a country I have never even visited, which results in J’s parents ceasing all contact with us.

I sell our condo, taking a great financial hit in the process, and move back in with my parents. My mother sells her store so that she can stay home with the girls while I go to work at an entry-level job because that is all that is available to me in this dismal economy.

Being a single mother to two little girls under the age of two, with the daily 1-hour commute into the city (each way) and the ever-piling bills and calls from collection agencies, I am overcome with exhaustion and grief every day.

I woke up sobbing from that nightmare, and spent the rest of the night staring — with relief — at my sleeping husband.

I have also been suffering from morbid visions that are similar to flashbacks in that they materialize suddenly and without control. Like the one I had recently while taking a trip to the supermarket:

I am walking back from the grocery store with Claire in her stroller. As I cross the street, a driver runs a red light and comes speeding toward us. I’m not sure how, but I know that I have a split second to decide whether to save Claire’s life, sacrificing mine and BebeDeux’s, or turn the other way so that I and the unborn baby inside of me will have a greater chance for survival (but would mean a certain end for Claire).

What do I do? How do I choose?

One of the reasons I tend to take the pessimistic approach to life is so that I can be prepared. So that I minimize my risks of being disappointed. Because whenever I go the optimistic route, I am always let down.

With this in mind, are these nightmares and visions just another coping mechanism? To remind myself that things could be worse? (Because as horrible as my appendicitis and resulting surgery were, they weren’t as bad as the “what if” scenarios that play out in my mind.)

Or are they just a weird pregnancy side effect?

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